Chelsey Matley: Learning to hold everything with an open hand

In this episode, I chat with Chelsey Matley. I was Chelsey’s doula about 18 months ago and have had such a great time getting to know this girl! 


Chelsey is a follower of Jesus, wife to her husband Kevin, and mama to her baby girl Evelyn Golden. She’s a freelance makeup artist born and raised in Seattle, WA. She loves the PNW, film, music, watching the birds on her bird feeder, reading books with Evelyn, watching reruns of The Office and finding new recipes to cook. She’s pretty cool :) and you are going to love our honest conversation today. 


We chat about their trial of infertility, overcoming challenges in their marriage, being a working mom, and her breastfeeding journey. Go follow this girl on instagram while you’re listening at @chelseymatley

I want to encourage you to join me over on my Patreon page and consider partnering with me to support this show! I wouldn’t be here without you all. Check out my Patreon to learn more about all the awesome resources I’ll have over there for my members!

LINKS FROM THE SHOW

Leggings
Stain Remover
Sound Machine
Chelsey’s Website
Devotional
Your Best Birth Course
Patreon

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 Matley Family // Photo by Amber Zbitnoff Photography

How To Break Up With Your Provider

Today, we’re chatting about how to break up with your provider? Maybe you’re not sure if you need to switch providers…Maybe you don’t even realize there is another option for you…Maybe you’ve just been content to deal with your current provider relationship as it is, and do something different next time. I’m going to break it all down for you on the show today:

Signs you need to break up with your provider:

  • Your preferences don’t align

  • You aren’t getting your questions answered

  • You don’t feel heard

  • You don’t feel supported

  • You’re afraid to upset your care provider (OB or midwife)

  • You’re worried about what your care provider might think

  • If you’re ever thought to yourself, I don’t want my care provider to think I don’t trust them  

  • If you get nervous when your care provider walks in the room. Or you notice your heart starts to race, your hands get sweaty, or your start experiencing any physical symptoms of anxiety in the presence of your care provider.

  • Your provider makes fun of you or makes light of what you have to say or is making jokes about questions you might have

  • You feel pressured into doing something that you’re not comfortable with? ie induction, pain meds, cesarean birth, etc.

  • Your provider does not value things that are important to your family.


Just because a provider delivered all of your friends babies or you’ve been seeing this provider for years, does not mean that their style of care will align with the type of care that would best meet your needs.


Changing care providers in your third trimester can be challenging friend, but it ABSOLUTELY can be done! You’re never too late to get the type of care you deserve. So please don’t let the fact that you’re in your third trimester hold you back. Your birth experience is TOO important!


Alright friends if you want to change providers, I’m going to lay it all out for you step by step…

I’ve got the best news for you… YOU DON’T HAVE TO SAY A WORD to your old provider if you don’t want to!


So for those of you who don’t like confrontation here’s what you do:

  1. Call up your new provider and schedule an appointment with them. Establish care with your new provider and have your new provider request that your records be sent over. Done : ) No conversation needed.   


For those of you who can handle a small amount of confrontation you can…

  1. Write a letter or email saying, thank you for your time, but I’m changing providers. No explanation is needed.

  2. For those of you who are Enneagram 8s or you just don’t mind confrontation… I would send an email to your current provider telling them you are leaving, and explain what went wrong with your care and how they can do better in the future. Schedule an appointment with your new provider and the office will request that your records be sent over for you!



Are you in the camp of, '“I don’t like my current provider and I don’t know who to switch to…” reach out to the doulas and childbirth educators in your area, ask your friends who they liked and WHY they liked them.

Choosing a provider that aligns with your preferences is SO IMPORTANT. And for some of you its choosing a provider GROUP that aligns with your goals for your birth, since you won’t know who will be on call when you’re in labor…

You deserve and should expect that you receive individualized education, counseling, and prenatal care, throughout your pregnancy and birth experience!

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Jessie Ereddia: Nurturing your soul as a new mom

Today on the show I chat with Jessie Ereddia! Jessie and I connected through good ole instagram you guys! So it was pretty fun to chat with this mama on the phone in real time! Jessie is a wife to her husband Grant, a mama to 2 little girlies, a writer, fellow podcaster, and an encourager of new moms! Jessie is super passionate about equipping mamas in the season of little people running around at your feet! She gets it you guys. She’s in it too and understands how so many women struggle to spend quality time with the Lord! She knows what it’s like to need a little soul care after tending to a sweet baby all day. I’m so excited for you to hear from Jessie today!

I want to encourage you to join me over on my Patreon page and consider partnering with me to support this show! I wouldn’t be here without you all. Check out my Patreon to learn more about all the awesome resources I’ll have over there for my members!  

LINKS FROM THE SHOW

Soul Care for the New Mom
Moms in Pursuit Online Course
Soul Care for the New Mom Podcast

Don’t Mom Alone
The Struggle Well Project
Risen Motherhood
Coffee & Crumbs

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Alright friend. If you’re a fan of the show and you’d like to show your support here’s what you can do:

  • You can SUBSCRIBE in your podcast app :)

  • You can leave a REVIEW on iTunes. These reviews really help others find the show!

  • You can go find me on Instagram @PERFECTLYWONDERFULLYMADE for updates and more goodies from me. 

  • You can always send me an email or message me on social media! I’d love to hear what you’re thinking about the show! alise@alisemarsh.com

  • You can tell your friends about the show!

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Katie Gruener: How to quiet the noise that says you're not doing enough!

Today on the show I sit down and have a lovely conversation with Katie Gruener. I’ve known Katie over the years through running into her at the gym. And I’m telling you this girl is LIGHT. She lights up the room and brings so much joy to others. Go follow her on instagram @Gruener_farms and scroll through her feed and put a face to her name!

She is just a joy to be around. I loved when Katie shared about being the “lead learner” for her girls in this episode. I think that’s so important. It’s easy to rely on school or church or programs… to teach our kids, but ultimately it’s US you guys. And that is an amazing gift. None of us our qualified, but God has equipped us for the job.

If you’re in a season of stripping away the old in your marriage you will be encouraged by Katie’s story. I know I was. Jeff & I are definitely in a season of rebuilding. It’s hard, but I wouldn’t trade it. There’s a lot of noise around us in our everyday lives as moms and parents. Go listen and be encouraged today to turn down the noise of our culture and turn up the voice of the one who says you’re already enough.

I want to encourage you to join me over on my Patreon page and consider partnering with me to support this show! I wouldn’t be here without you all. Check out my Patreon to learn more about all the awesome resources I’ll have over there for my members!  

Praying for you friend!


LINKS FROM THE SHOW

Gruener Farms Website
FIVE MARYS FARMS
 

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The Start of Season 02 - The thing I never thought I’d do again.

Hi friends!

It’s been a long time! I’ve missed you all :) Don’t worry, I’m back from a much needed break and I’ve got some incredible shows I can’t wait to share with you! I thought I could take this time to give you a little Alise life update! Sound good? Okay, here we go friends!


Well for those of you who don’t know me or have just found the show let me introduce myself! I’m Alise Marsh and I’m your host here. I’m a wife to Jeff Marsh, a mama, and I’ve got 2 amazing little people in my life named Monroe and Indiana. I’m a full time doula and childbirth educator and basically a super fan of women. I released my first podcast episode in September of 2017. I’m almost a year and a half in and I’m still loving this whole podcasting gig. Thank you for listening!

This podcast was born out of a season in my life when I was terribly broken and hurting. Up until that point in my life, nothing had devastated me and crushed me like that experience before. And I’ve felt crushed you guys… plenty of times before. And you know what I decided to do… the one thing that feels good when you’re hurting. Telling people how much Jesus loves them and encouraging others. Jeff played a big role in the birth of this podcast as well. I’ve always been a big podcast fan. I talked and dreamed about starting my own show for years before I actually did. Jeff looked me straight in the eyes one night and said I want you to sit down and record your first episode and don’t come back in the house until you’re done. I looked at him, like, “are you serious?”

We have this lawn shed. I’m sure all of you have heard about the lawn shed if you’ve listened to previous episodes. But, Jeff turned a lawn shed in our backyard into a cabin with a rustic mountain feel equipped with carpet, heat, and wifi. So I sat out their one night for hours…Yes, the perfectionist in me was a struggle bus in that moment. And the Perfectly, Wonderfully Made show was born!

I originally thought I’d just share birth stories, and you know what I came to realize?! That this show is so much more than birth. It’s motherhood. It’s life. It’s REAL life. And I’ve been a birth professional long enough to know that birth deeply affects your entrance into motherhood. It sets you on a trajectory to thrive or to struggle. Birth changes your brain, it changes how you see the world, and it most certainly affects your relationships. It has been such a joy to bring you stories of the lives of women that I pray have encouraged you and given you so much hope. Because we need it. We need to know there’s a God who’s bigger than our circumstances that loves us more than we could imagine, a God that is for us, and has designed us for a specific purpose.

Enter my need for a serious break from podcasting. More like a break from LIFE! You guys… this winter I didn’t know if I’d ever release another podcast episode again. I’ve always said, Lord, as long as you’ve given me this platform I’m going to encourage and equip all who will listen. But, whenever my season is done I’m okay. I’ll follow you and I trust you with this. If it was for 32 episodes or 10 or 100. However long you want me here I’m here.    

My husband, Jeff has struggled his entire adult life with mental health challenges. There were seasons were my husband’s depression and PTSD crippled him to the point he was unable to work and he struggled to function in his everyday life. There were seasons, I thought we were going to lose our home at any moment, and certainly seasons where I wasn’t sure our marriage would survive. A year ago we started running toward anything we thought might help Jeff recover and heal from the dark depression he was living with. Jeff was seeing therapists, counselors, pastors, naturopaths, doctors, trying different medications, and you better believe we were praying our faces off. And I’d love to tell you that all of that worked. A year later, Jeff was getting worse. Our marriage was falling apart. Jeff couldn’t engage with me at all. We were just co -existing. There would be weeks were he would hardly speak to me. I lived in fear that Jeff would hurt himself and that his depression would take him from me.

The beginning of November this winter I fell on the floor one day sobbing and knew that I couldn’t live like this anymore. I had felt for weeks like the Lord was asking me to have Jeff move out. And I couldn’t understand. I didn’t get that. How could I ask him to leave if I wanted our marriage to heal? If I wanted Jeff to heal? But Jeff wasn’t going to get healthy living in our house. I was terrified. Could I do it? I was so scared you guys. But, I knew in my gut he needed to go. He was hurting me.. Our kids.. And he wasn’t getting any better. I wasn’t helping either. I was just making things worse for Jeff! This wasn’t working. Jeff needed healing and I couldn’t provide that for him. Only Jesus could.   

And you know what you guys… I didn’t have to ask Jeff to leave our home for him to find healing. God created a way for him to leave and get healthy! How good is our God! Through our community and therapists we found a rehab center for Jeff. In November Jeff went to a depression treatment center. He spent a month there. You guys.. Hardest days of my life. My kids were devastated. Jeff wasn’t working a lot and was home so much with them. So for my kiddos this was a huge life altering experience. They sobbed for him for weeks. There were tantrums and a whole lot of tears. I cried right along with them most days.  

2 days before Jeff left for the center he went to a prayer night at a local church. He almost didn’t go. We only had a little family time left before he would be gone with limited contact for us for a month. But, he went and you guys. It was life changing. He sat in the back of the room, and heard from the Lord so clearly. The Lord told him to repent of his bitterness and doubt or he would never find healing. He left for the center 2 days later. And you guys… MIRACLES happened. I’d never even begin to fathom how my husband could find such deep, lasting healing in such a short time. After 3 days at the center Jeff had a new diagnosis, the correct medication, and the Lord slowly but surely started peeling off the layers of hurt that had piled up over years of trauma. He got to the heart of all of the pain. Jeff came back to me a new person. He wasn’t even the person he was when I first met him. He was a healed, more healthy version of his previous self. I want to encourage you right now to hit pause and go follow Jeff’s story of hope and healing on social media. You can find him @secretlifeofdad. He’s got a story to tell and it’s a good one my friends. We had some really high highs after Jeff came home from the Center. I’d love to tell you it’s been all cupcakes and rainbows and The Bachelor style date nights the last 3 months. We were hit unexpectedly with drama just weeks after Jeff came home, fraudulent charges on my business account, bronchitis from the pit of hell, stomach bugs, and so many challenges with insurance companies and pharmaceutical manufacturers trying to get Jeff the medication he needs. In the middle of all that we’ve had to call 911 for our little guy and we are currently working hard to build up his immune system, I’ve had friends and people close to me battle cancer and disease and friends loose babies. I’ve attended 9 births so far in 2019 while I’m recording this. The thing I know that heals my soul is serving others in the midst of your hardship. There’s something so powerful about showing up, expecting nothing from someone else, and serving your guts out. You take your eyes off your junk for a bit, and love others. It’s healing my friends. Try it. If nothing else it's a wonderful distraction.   

Friends. It’s just life. We ALL have it. I know you have your fair share of it too. And yet, through all of this life stuff we’ve been facing I’ve never felt more unified in my marriage. We are 9 years into this marriage thing and I feel like we are starting over. We hit pause, and we’re starting again, and its so good. Its freaking hard you guys, but man if you can get through the fire-ery parts there’s such goodness on the other side.    

When life feels big and scary and uncertain God seems so steady to me. I’ve had more twists and turns and disappointments in the last 3 months than I thought were possible. When something goes nutty 😆 in the Marsh household its ALMOST laughable these days.

And all I can think is Surely… God you’re up to something. SURELY. I don’t know what it is. I don’t know what you have in store God, but it’s got to be big. Because the Devil really seems to be pulling out all the stops here, almost like he knows what’s coming. I suppose he does know what’s coming…

And the crazy part about all of it is I’ve never been more sure of my God. I’ve never been more sure that He’s with me. It feels like loss and suffering surround me. I can’t escape them. Cancer and death and sickness and loss and disappointment seem to get closer and closer to me with each passing day. And yet, my feet feel so firmly planted. I may be pretty dang wobbly from the knees up, but my feet are rooted in the ground.

There is this perfect dance between joy & suffering. You don’t get one without the other most of the time. They can co exist together in such a powerful way. That is the space where Jesus lives. In that secret place where joy & suffering co-exist. It is the most intimate of places.

I never knew I would understand this space in this season of my life. While I would never wish heartache on anyone, I can only pray that you’re able to experience an intimacy with the Lord in that secret place, like I’ve come to cherish.  

I’ve never yearned for Heaven before like I have in the last year of my life. I long for the day when there is no more pain and no more tears. And I don’t think that’s a bad thing my friend! We were created for eternity! So here I am….moving, taking those steps, and waking up and believing that joy comes in the morning. And my friend, it really does. It really really does.

And you know what I’m back. Here in this podcasting space that I have come to love so much! I’ve got a new little studio space to record in, and I’m SO PUMPED about it. I’ve got some amazing episodes ahead for you all and I can’t wait to share them with you! I may slow down friends, but you know there’s not a lot that can stop this girl. Thank you for being here with me! You are a gift to me!   

Before I go I want to tell you all about my new Patreon page and invite you to join me there! I’ve got some awesome content in store for my Patreon members and would love to invite dive into this community! With your support I’ll be able to continue to create content and resources just for you! My Patreon members will get freebies, discount codes, and a behind the scenes content! You can check it out and learn more at patreon.com/alisemarsh

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Alright friend. If you’re a fan of the show and you’d like to show your support here’s what you can do:

  • You can SUBSCRIBE in your podcast app :)

  • You can leave a REVIEW on iTunes. These reviews really help others find the show!

  • You can go find me on Instagram @PERFECTLYWONDERFULLYMADE for updates and more goodies from me. 

  • You can always send me an email or message me on social media! I’d love to hear what you’re thinking about the show! alise@alisemarsh.com

  • You can tell your friends about the show! If you’ve been encouraged today, I would love it if  you would share the show with a friend you care about today!

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32: Christina Gilbreath - Faith in the Journey

Today on the show I chat with Christina Gilbreath. Christina is a wife and mama to two beautiful little girls. She is a pastor, a voice & piano teacher, and one amazing mama & friend. We chat about insecurity, motherhood, postpartum, and the lies we often believe as women. Christina preached an incredible message this year called, Faith in the Journey. Go watch this mama preach the house down. You will be so encouraged my friend!

Mama, what is the lie you are believing about yourself today? What is the truth? What does the Lord say about you? I want you to call it out. Make it clear and plain, and let the truth of God’s word pierce the darkness in your life today.

If you are sitting here listening to this episode and are experiencing any of the symptoms of postpartum depression I want you to stop right now and reach out to a friend. Ask for help. Do not sit one minute longer in the dark. There is hope for you. There is joy for you. I know we talk about postpartum a lot on this show, but mama you have to know there is hope! If you are local and live in Washington state, call the Perinatal Support Group today.

LINKS FROM THE SHOW

Faith in the Journey - Message by Christina Gilbreath
Perinatal Support Group - WA
Your Best Birth Online Childbirth Course
 

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Alright friend. If you’re a fan of the show and you’d like to show your support here’s what you can do:

  • You can SUBSCRIBE in your podcast app :)

  • You can leave a REVIEW on iTunes. These reviews really help others find the show!

  • You can go find me on Instagram @PERFECTLYWONDERFULLYMADE for updates and more goodies from me. 

  • You can always send me an email or message me on social media! I’d love to hear what you’re thinking about the show! alise@alisemarsh.com

  • You can tell your friends about the show! If you’ve been encouraged today, I would love it if  you would share the show with a friend you care about today!

31: Tiffany Burke - The truth about doing it all and having it all

Today on the show I chat with Tiffany Burke.  She is a mother of three, who has a 13 years old, an 8 years old and a 1 year old baby girl. She is also a foster mama and has had children in and out of her home in different seasons of her life. Tiffany was adopted herself, and lived on her own as a teenager. She has a huge heart for displaced children. She’s hoping to adopt a foster child in the future. So if you’re considering foster care you guy will get a lot out of this episode. She is a lover of motherhood and has been married to her husband, Sean for 10 years. She was a gestational carrier for her brother and carried twins. I know right, what else does this girl do? She’s a commercial and portrait photographer and we chat today about how she does it all. But I’ll let you in on a little secret....She DOESN'T do it all. None of us do really. We chat about mommy guilt and our postpartum bodies. There’s a lot packed into this episode and I know you’re going to love it!

LINKS FROM THE SHOW

Alexandra Kuykendall's book Loving My Actual Life
Tiffany's Website
Tiffany's Birth Story Video
Your Best Birth Online Childbirth Course
 

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Alright friend. If you’re a fan of the show and you’d like to show your support here’s what you can do:

  • You can SUBSCRIBE in your podcast app :)
  • You can leave a REVIEW on iTunes. These reviews really help others find the show!
  • You can go find me on Instagram @PERFECTLYWONDERFULLYMADE for updates and more goodies from me. 
  • You can always send me an email or message me on social media! I’d love to hear what you’re thinking about the show! alise@alisemarsh.com
  • You can tell your friends about the show! If you’ve been encouraged today, I would love it if  you would share the show with a friend you care about today!

30: Jessica Barcelona - Killing comparison as a new mama

Today on the show I chat with Jessica Barcelona. Jessica is a wife, a mama, a pastor at her local church, and a blogger! Jessica is a blast you guys. You’re going to get some laughs in during this episode. Jessica shares with us her story about her transition to parenthood. Jessica wasn’t the girl who was looking forward to having a baby, but the Lord changed her in beautiful ways. We chat about her postpartum recovery and about all the unknowns she walked through caring for a newborn. Jessica shares how lost she felt in those early days of parenting and I know so many of you can relate. We chat about finding community and how to kill comparison. Go have a listen my friend! 

LINKS FROM THE SHOW

Lilly Joy's GoFund Me Page
Lilly's Prayers & Support Group on Facebook
Jessica's Blog
CBS News Article on Maternal Mortality in the US
Your Best Birth Online Childbirth Course
 

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Alright friend. If you’re a fan of the show and you’d like to show your support here’s what you can do:

  • You can SUBSCRIBE in your podcast app :)
  • You can leave a REVIEW on iTunes. These reviews really help others find the show!
  • You can go find me on Instagram @PERFECTLYWONDERFULLYMADE for updates and more goodies from me. 
  • You can always send me an email or message me on social media! I’d love to hear what you’re thinking about the show! alise@alisemarsh.com
  • You can tell your friends about the show! If you’ve been encouraged today, I would love it if  you would share the show with a friend you care about today!