s02 e02 - Katie Gruener: How to quiet the noise that says you're not doing enough!

Today on the show I sit down and have a lovely conversation with Katie Gruener. I’ve known Katie over the years through running into her at the gym. And I’m telling you this girl is LIGHT. She lights up the room and brings so much joy to others. Go follow her on instagram @Gruener_farms and scroll through her feed and put a face to her name!

She is just a joy to be around. I loved when Katie shared about being the “lead learner” for her girls in this episode. I think that’s so important. It’s easy to rely on school or church or programs… to teach our kids, but ultimately it’s US you guys. And that is an amazing gift. None of us our qualified, but God has equipped us for the job.

If you’re in a season of stripping away the old in your marriage you will be encouraged by Katie’s story. I know I was. Jeff & I are definitely in a season of rebuilding. It’s hard, but I wouldn’t trade it. There’s a lot of noise around us in our everyday lives as moms and parents. Go listen and be encouraged today to turn down the noise of our culture and turn up the voice of the one who says you’re already enough.

I want to encourage you to join me over on my Patreon page and consider partnering with me to support this show! I wouldn’t be here without you all. Check out my Patreon to learn more about all the awesome resources I’ll have over there for my members!  

Praying for you friend!


LINKS FROM THE SHOW

Gruener Farms Website
FIVE MARYS FARMS
 

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The Start of Season Two - The thing I never thought I’d do again.

Hi friends!

It’s been a long time! I’ve missed you all :) Don’t worry, I’m back from a much needed break and I’ve got some incredible shows I can’t wait to share with you! I thought I could take this time to give you a little Alise life update! Sound good? Okay, here we go friends!


Well for those of you who don’t know me or have just found the show let me introduce myself! I’m Alise Marsh and I’m your host here. I’m a wife to Jeff Marsh, a mama, and I’ve got 2 amazing little people in my life named Monroe and Indiana. I’m a full time doula and childbirth educator and basically a super fan of women. I released my first podcast episode in September of 2017. I’m almost a year and a half in and I’m still loving this whole podcasting gig. Thank you for listening!

This podcast was born out of a season in my life when I was terribly broken and hurting. Up until that point in my life, nothing had devastated me and crushed me like that experience before. And I’ve felt crushed you guys… plenty of times before. And you know what I decided to do… the one thing that feels good when you’re hurting. Telling people how much Jesus loves them and encouraging others. Jeff played a big role in the birth of this podcast as well. I’ve always been a big podcast fan. I talked and dreamed about starting my own show for years before I actually did. Jeff looked me straight in the eyes one night and said I want you to sit down and record your first episode and don’t come back in the house until you’re done. I looked at him, like, “are you serious?”

We have this lawn shed. I’m sure all of you have heard about the lawn shed if you’ve listened to previous episodes. But, Jeff turned a lawn shed in our backyard into a cabin with a rustic mountain feel equipped with carpet, heat, and wifi. So I sat out their one night for hours…Yes, the perfectionist in me was a struggle bus in that moment. And the Perfectly, Wonderfully Made show was born!

I originally thought I’d just share birth stories, and you know what I came to realize?! That this show is so much more than birth. It’s motherhood. It’s life. It’s REAL life. And I’ve been a birth professional long enough to know that birth deeply affects your entrance into motherhood. It sets you on a trajectory to thrive or to struggle. Birth changes your brain, it changes how you see the world, and it most certainly affects your relationships. It has been such a joy to bring you stories of the lives of women that I pray have encouraged you and given you so much hope. Because we need it. We need to know there’s a God who’s bigger than our circumstances that loves us more than we could imagine, a God that is for us, and has designed us for a specific purpose.

Enter my need for a serious break from podcasting. More like a break from LIFE! You guys… this winter I didn’t know if I’d ever release another podcast episode again. I’ve always said, Lord, as long as you’ve given me this platform I’m going to encourage and equip all who will listen. But, whenever my season is done I’m okay. I’ll follow you and I trust you with this. If it was for 32 episodes or 10 or 100. However long you want me here I’m here.    

My husband, Jeff has struggled his entire adult life with mental health challenges. There were seasons were my husband’s depression and PTSD crippled him to the point he was unable to work and he struggled to function in his everyday life. There were seasons, I thought we were going to lose our home at any moment, and certainly seasons where I wasn’t sure our marriage would survive. A year ago we started running toward anything we thought might help Jeff recover and heal from the dark depression he was living with. Jeff was seeing therapists, counselors, pastors, naturopaths, doctors, trying different medications, and you better believe we were praying our faces off. And I’d love to tell you that all of that worked. A year later, Jeff was getting worse. Our marriage was falling apart. Jeff couldn’t engage with me at all. We were just co -existing. There would be weeks were he would hardly speak to me. I lived in fear that Jeff would hurt himself and that his depression would take him from me.

The beginning of November this winter I fell on the floor one day sobbing and knew that I couldn’t live like this anymore. I had felt for weeks like the Lord was asking me to have Jeff move out. And I couldn’t understand. I didn’t get that. How could I ask him to leave if I wanted our marriage to heal? If I wanted Jeff to heal? But Jeff wasn’t going to get healthy living in our house. I was terrified. Could I do it? I was so scared you guys. But, I knew in my gut he needed to go. He was hurting me.. Our kids.. And he wasn’t getting any better. I wasn’t helping either. I was just making things worse for Jeff! This wasn’t working. Jeff needed healing and I couldn’t provide that for him. Only Jesus could.   

And you know what you guys… I didn’t have to ask Jeff to leave our home for him to find healing. God created a way for him to leave and get healthy! How good is our God! Through our community and therapists we found a rehab center for Jeff. In November Jeff went to a depression treatment center. He spent a month there. You guys.. Hardest days of my life. My kids were devastated. Jeff wasn’t working a lot and was home so much with them. So for my kiddos this was a huge life altering experience. They sobbed for him for weeks. There were tantrums and a whole lot of tears. I cried right along with them most days.  

2 days before Jeff left for the center he went to a prayer night at a local church. He almost didn’t go. We only had a little family time left before he would be gone with limited contact for us for a month. But, he went and you guys. It was life changing. He sat in the back of the room, and heard from the Lord so clearly. The Lord told him to repent of his bitterness and doubt or he would never find healing. He left for the center 2 days later. And you guys… MIRACLES happened. I’d never even begin to fathom how my husband could find such deep, lasting healing in such a short time. After 3 days at the center Jeff had a new diagnosis, the correct medication, and the Lord slowly but surely started peeling off the layers of hurt that had piled up over years of trauma. He got to the heart of all of the pain. Jeff came back to me a new person. He wasn’t even the person he was when I first met him. He was a healed, more healthy version of his previous self. I want to encourage you right now to hit pause and go follow Jeff’s story of hope and healing on social media. You can find him @secretlifeofdad. He’s got a story to tell and it’s a good one my friends. We had some really high highs after Jeff came home from the Center. I’d love to tell you it’s been all cupcakes and rainbows and The Bachelor style date nights the last 3 months. We were hit unexpectedly with drama just weeks after Jeff came home, fraudulent charges on my business account, bronchitis from the pit of hell, stomach bugs, and so many challenges with insurance companies and pharmaceutical manufacturers trying to get Jeff the medication he needs. In the middle of all that we’ve had to call 911 for our little guy and we are currently working hard to build up his immune system, I’ve had friends and people close to me battle cancer and disease and friends loose babies. I’ve attended 9 births so far in 2019 while I’m recording this. The thing I know that heals my soul is serving others in the midst of your hardship. There’s something so powerful about showing up, expecting nothing from someone else, and serving your guts out. You take your eyes off your junk for a bit, and love others. It’s healing my friends. Try it. If nothing else it's a wonderful distraction.   

Friends. It’s just life. We ALL have it. I know you have your fair share of it too. And yet, through all of this life stuff we’ve been facing I’ve never felt more unified in my marriage. We are 9 years into this marriage thing and I feel like we are starting over. We hit pause, and we’re starting again, and its so good. Its freaking hard you guys, but man if you can get through the fire-ery parts there’s such goodness on the other side.    

When life feels big and scary and uncertain God seems so steady to me. I’ve had more twists and turns and disappointments in the last 3 months than I thought were possible. When something goes nutty 😆 in the Marsh household its ALMOST laughable these days.

And all I can think is Surely… God you’re up to something. SURELY. I don’t know what it is. I don’t know what you have in store God, but it’s got to be big. Because the Devil really seems to be pulling out all the stops here, almost like he knows what’s coming. I suppose he does know what’s coming…

And the crazy part about all of it is I’ve never been more sure of my God. I’ve never been more sure that He’s with me. It feels like loss and suffering surround me. I can’t escape them. Cancer and death and sickness and loss and disappointment seem to get closer and closer to me with each passing day. And yet, my feet feel so firmly planted. I may be pretty dang wobbly from the knees up, but my feet are rooted in the ground.

There is this perfect dance between joy & suffering. You don’t get one without the other most of the time. They can co exist together in such a powerful way. That is the space where Jesus lives. In that secret place where joy & suffering co-exist. It is the most intimate of places.

I never knew I would understand this space in this season of my life. While I would never wish heartache on anyone, I can only pray that you’re able to experience an intimacy with the Lord in that secret place, like I’ve come to cherish.  

I’ve never yearned for Heaven before like I have in the last year of my life. I long for the day when there is no more pain and no more tears. And I don’t think that’s a bad thing my friend! We were created for eternity! So here I am….moving, taking those steps, and waking up and believing that joy comes in the morning. And my friend, it really does. It really really does.

And you know what I’m back. Here in this podcasting space that I have come to love so much! I’ve got a new little studio space to record in, and I’m SO PUMPED about it. I’ve got some amazing episodes ahead for you all and I can’t wait to share them with you! I may slow down friends, but you know there’s not a lot that can stop this girl. Thank you for being here with me! You are a gift to me!   

Before I go I want to tell you all about my new Patreon page and invite you to join me there! I’ve got some awesome content in store for my Patreon members and would love to invite dive into this community! With your support I’ll be able to continue to create content and resources just for you! My Patreon members will get freebies, discount codes, and a behind the scenes content! You can check it out and learn more at patreon.com/alisemarsh

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Alright friend. If you’re a fan of the show and you’d like to show your support here’s what you can do:

  • You can SUBSCRIBE in your podcast app :)

  • You can leave a REVIEW on iTunes. These reviews really help others find the show!

  • You can go find me on Instagram @PERFECTLYWONDERFULLYMADE for updates and more goodies from me. 

  • You can always send me an email or message me on social media! I’d love to hear what you’re thinking about the show! alise@alisemarsh.com

  • You can tell your friends about the show! If you’ve been encouraged today, I would love it if  you would share the show with a friend you care about today!

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32: Christina Gilbreath - Faith in the Journey

Today on the show I chat with Christina Gilbreath. Christina is a wife and mama to two beautiful little girls. She is a pastor, a voice & piano teacher, and one amazing mama & friend. We chat about insecurity, motherhood, postpartum, and the lies we often believe as women. Christina preached an incredible message this year called, Faith in the Journey. Go watch this mama preach the house down. You will be so encouraged my friend!

Mama, what is the lie you are believing about yourself today? What is the truth? What does the Lord say about you? I want you to call it out. Make it clear and plain, and let the truth of God’s word pierce the darkness in your life today.

If you are sitting here listening to this episode and are experiencing any of the symptoms of postpartum depression I want you to stop right now and reach out to a friend. Ask for help. Do not sit one minute longer in the dark. There is hope for you. There is joy for you. I know we talk about postpartum a lot on this show, but mama you have to know there is hope! If you are local and live in Washington state, call the Perinatal Support Group today.

LINKS FROM THE SHOW

Faith in the Journey - Message by Christina Gilbreath
Perinatal Support Group - WA
Your Best Birth Online Childbirth Course
 

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Alright friend. If you’re a fan of the show and you’d like to show your support here’s what you can do:

  • You can SUBSCRIBE in your podcast app :)

  • You can leave a REVIEW on iTunes. These reviews really help others find the show!

  • You can go find me on Instagram @PERFECTLYWONDERFULLYMADE for updates and more goodies from me. 

  • You can always send me an email or message me on social media! I’d love to hear what you’re thinking about the show! alise@alisemarsh.com

  • You can tell your friends about the show! If you’ve been encouraged today, I would love it if  you would share the show with a friend you care about today!

31: Tiffany Burke - The truth about doing it all and having it all

Today on the show I chat with Tiffany Burke.  She is a mother of three, who has a 13 years old, an 8 years old and a 1 year old baby girl. She is also a foster mama and has had children in and out of her home in different seasons of her life. Tiffany was adopted herself, and lived on her own as a teenager. She has a huge heart for displaced children. She’s hoping to adopt a foster child in the future. So if you’re considering foster care you guy will get a lot out of this episode. She is a lover of motherhood and has been married to her husband, Sean for 10 years. She was a gestational carrier for her brother and carried twins. I know right, what else does this girl do? She’s a commercial and portrait photographer and we chat today about how she does it all. But I’ll let you in on a little secret....She DOESN'T do it all. None of us do really. We chat about mommy guilt and our postpartum bodies. There’s a lot packed into this episode and I know you’re going to love it!

LINKS FROM THE SHOW

Alexandra Kuykendall's book Loving My Actual Life
Tiffany's Website
Tiffany's Birth Story Video
Your Best Birth Online Childbirth Course
 

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Alright friend. If you’re a fan of the show and you’d like to show your support here’s what you can do:

  • You can SUBSCRIBE in your podcast app :)
  • You can leave a REVIEW on iTunes. These reviews really help others find the show!
  • You can go find me on Instagram @PERFECTLYWONDERFULLYMADE for updates and more goodies from me. 
  • You can always send me an email or message me on social media! I’d love to hear what you’re thinking about the show! alise@alisemarsh.com
  • You can tell your friends about the show! If you’ve been encouraged today, I would love it if  you would share the show with a friend you care about today!

30: Jessica Barcelona - Killing comparison as a new mama

Today on the show I chat with Jessica Barcelona. Jessica is a wife, a mama, a pastor at her local church, and a blogger! Jessica is a blast you guys. You’re going to get some laughs in during this episode. Jessica shares with us her story about her transition to parenthood. Jessica wasn’t the girl who was looking forward to having a baby, but the Lord changed her in beautiful ways. We chat about her postpartum recovery and about all the unknowns she walked through caring for a newborn. Jessica shares how lost she felt in those early days of parenting and I know so many of you can relate. We chat about finding community and how to kill comparison. Go have a listen my friend! 

LINKS FROM THE SHOW

Lilly Joy's GoFund Me Page
Lilly's Prayers & Support Group on Facebook
Jessica's Blog
CBS News Article on Maternal Mortality in the US
Your Best Birth Online Childbirth Course
 

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Alright friend. If you’re a fan of the show and you’d like to show your support here’s what you can do:

  • You can SUBSCRIBE in your podcast app :)
  • You can leave a REVIEW on iTunes. These reviews really help others find the show!
  • You can go find me on Instagram @PERFECTLYWONDERFULLYMADE for updates and more goodies from me. 
  • You can always send me an email or message me on social media! I’d love to hear what you’re thinking about the show! alise@alisemarsh.com
  • You can tell your friends about the show! If you’ve been encouraged today, I would love it if  you would share the show with a friend you care about today!

29: Ashley Hopper - A story of HOPE. Infertility, IVF, Triplets + 1

Today on the show I chat with my friend Ashley Hopper! Ashley is a mama to 4 beautiful girls. She has a 6 year old daughter and 2 year old triplets. She’s been married to her rock, Steven for 15 years. So you guys know I can’t stay away from pregnant people when I see them. Well, I try. But sometimes… it just happens. Ashley was also friends with my friend Jenna Urdiales (who is episode 18) if you guys want to go back and listen. I saw Ashley at preschool pick up one day and naturally just start talking to her. She started telling me her story of being pregnant with triplets. Eventually she came to hire me as her doula and I had the privilege of watching her carry 3 beautiful babies in her belly and give birth to these little miracles. You guys are going to love her. We chat about getting married young and how she had to learn to settle into who she was. Ashley shares her story of infertility with us today. And my friend for those of you’ve walked through infertility I know this episode is going to be so encouraging for you. Ashley is something else you guys. She is so strong and it’s so clear the Lord has equipped her for this life she lives.

LINKS FROM THE SHOW

Lilly Joy's GoFund Me Page
Lilly's Prayers & Support Group on Facebook
Ashley's YouTube Channel 
Ashley's Blog
Your Best Birth Online Childbirth Course
 

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Alright friend. If you’re a fan of the show and you’d like to show your support here’s what you can do:

  • You can SUBSCRIBE in your podcast app :)
  • You can leave a REVIEW on iTunes. These reviews really help others find the show!
  • You can go find me on Instagram @PERFECTLYWONDERFULLYMADE for updates and more goodies from me. 
  • You can always send me an email or message me on social media! I’d love to hear what you’re thinking about the show! alise@alisemarsh.com
  • You can tell your friends about the show! If you’ve been encouraged today, I would love it if  you would share the show with a friend you care about today!

28: Selena Frederick - Fierce Marriage: Cultivating a truly Christ Centered Marriage

Today on the show I chat with my friend, Selena Frederick. Selena is a mama, a wife, a blogger, an author, and a talented photographer. She loves traveling, horses, her family, reading, and YoungLife! Wow that kind of sounded like an online dating site bio haha. Well I think she sounds pretty awesome. Selena was born & raised in Puyallup, WA. She graduated from the University of Washington with a bachelor’s degree in Arts, Media, and Culture and a minor in education. Selena & I went to the same high school, but we didn’t become really close until I started dating my husband Jeff. I have years and years of memories with Selena and her husband Ryan. I’m so thankful for this friend I get to live my life with. Community and relationships are a gift from God and I thank the Lord often for this friend. I can say my marriage would not be what it is and my life would look so differently without Selena in it. I’m so excited for you guys to hear from her today!  

Isn’t it so true how the Enemy likes to come in and distort our gifts. Those incredible talents the Lord has placed in us, the enemy is so good at just getting us to downplay and discredit what the Lord has intentionally placed in us. He’s not dumb you guys. He knows that when God’s people operate in their gifting, lives are changed. 

I loved our conversation about delighting in the Lord. And His desires for our lives. Stayed tuned you guys. There might just be another book written on this topic in the near future! 

I want to encourage you check out Selena and her husband, Ryan’s ministry Fierce Marriage right now. You can find their blog and resources at Fiercemarriage.com Go buy their book you guys. It will change your marriage. You can find their book called Fierce Marriage at Fiercemarriagebook.com They’ve got incredible books and resources out their for you! They have super cool rings, devotionals, and prints to add to your home. We have their stuff everywhere you guys. And yes, they are my friends, so I’m going to share about them, but also it does make a difference. Your marriage is too important my friends. Did you know the most important thing you can do for your children is to have a healthy relationship with your spouse. It’s so so important!

Okay one last thing for those of you thinking about gifting something special to the man in your life for Father’s Day. You all need to order a Crux Watch for your man. These watches have Top-quality components, a timeless design, a 2-year warranty, and 50% of profits from every watch goes toward helping others. It’s a win win my friend.

LINKS FROM THE SHOW

Crux Waxes for Father's Day Gifts 
Fierce Marriage Website
Selena & Ryan's Book
Fierce Marriage Rings, Devotionals, Prints
Fierce Wives Facebook Group
Fierce Marriage Podcast
 

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Alright friend. If you’re a fan of the show and you’d like to show your support here’s what you can do:

  • You can SUBSCRIBE in your podcast app :)
  • You can leave a REVIEW on iTunes. These reviews really help others find the show!
  • You can go find me on Instagram @PERFECTLYWONDERFULLYMADE for updates and more goodies from me. 
  • You can always send me an email or message me on social media! I’d love to hear what you’re thinking about the show! alise@alisemarsh.com
  • You can tell your friends about the show! If you’ve been encouraged today, I would love it if  you would share the show with a friend you care about today!

 

27: Paige Hartford: Prone to wander

Today on the show I chat with Paige Hartford. Paige and I have been trying to get together to record a podcast for a while now, and I’m so excited it’s finally here to share with you all! Paige is a labor & delivery nurse and an amazing wife and mama. She has an adorable son and is expecting another baby this summer! I know you guys are going to really love her perspective as a labor & delivery nurse and as a new mama. She shares her postpartum journey and some of the challenges she faced at work with a new baby at home. I know you guys are going to be so encouraged by Paige and all she has to share with us.

Postpartum anxiety is so common my friends. I always tell my students in my childbirth classes when we talk about life after baby, you need these resources. If not for you, for your friends. 1 in 7 women will experience a postpartum mood disorder. So you guys. If it’s not you, someone in your tribe is going to need your support. Talk about how you are feeling. With your family, with your friends, with your care providers, with your counselor. It’s scary being vulnerable, but I promise promise you the risk is worth it. Don’t do life alone. And especially if you are experiencing any kind of postpartum mood or anxiety disorder.

I just loved when Paige talked about how she felt like she was like the Israelites at times. Prone to wander. I mean golly. Read any of the minor prophets in the old testament. Again and again they wander. They rebel. They walk away from the promises of God. And He calls to his people. The Lord will never forsake us. He just never will.   

If you’re listening today and you’re pregnant I have created something just for you. My husband Jeff & I have created an online childbirth course just for you! I would be honored to be invited into your home to encourage and help you navigate your birth experience.  

Head on over to yourbestbirthcourse.com and enter the promo code: PODCAST at check out for 50$ off of the cost of the course. I can’t wait for you guys to get through this information.


    LINKS FROM THE SHOW

    The Dream of You by Jo Saxton
    Breaking Busy by Alli Worthington 

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    Alright friend. If you’re a fan of the show and you’d like to show your support here’s what you can do:

    • You can SUBSCRIBE in your podcast app :)
    • You can leave a REVIEW on iTunes. These reviews really help others find the show!
    • You can go find me on Instagram @PERFECTLYWONDERFULLYMADE for updates and more goodies from me. 
    • You can always send me an email or message me on social media! I’d love to hear what you’re thinking about the show! alise@alisemarsh.com
    • You can tell your friends about the show! If you’ve been encouraged today, I would love it if  you would share the show with a friend you care about today!